Monday, April 18, 2011

Soundtrack of Goodbyes

Happiness, hit her like a train on a track
Coming towards her, stuck still no turning back
She hid around corners and she hid under beds
She killed it with kisses and from it she fled
With every bubble she sank with a drink
And washed it away down the kitchen sink

The dog days are over
The dog days are done
The horses are coming so you better run

Run fast for your mother run fast for your father
Run for your children for your sisters and brothers
Leave all your love and your longing behind you
Can't carry it with you if you want to survive

The dog days are over
The dog days are done
Can you hear the horses
Cuz here they come
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/f/florence_and_the_machine/dog_days_are_over.html ]
And I never wanted anything from you
Except everything you had
And what was left after that too. oh.

Happiness hit her like a bullet in the back
Struck from a great height
By someone who should know better than that

The dog days are over
The dog days are gone
Can you hear the horses
Cuz here they come

Run fast for your mother and fast for your father
Run for your children for your sisters and brothers
Leave all your love and your loving behind you
Can't carry it with you if you want to survive

The dog days are over
The dog days are gone
Can you hear the horses because here they come

The dog days are over
The dog days are gone
Can you hear the horses because here they come

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWOyfLBYtuU

Mixed Feelings

Its funny, a few months ago I was crying as I said goodbye to the life I knew.
Now, I'm crying as I say goodbye to the life I discovered.

Tell me please, is there a way of saying goodbye? How am I suppose to leave all of this behind. How am I supposed to go back where I left off. Is that even possible?

So much time. So many changes.
I left the expected and came to the unknown. I am hypnotized by the beauty of it.

Now what should I expect as I return?

Friday, April 8, 2011

Opening Up

It does not come as a surprise to me that sometimes you can become fully aware of who you are, where you're heading, how you perceive things and how could you do things differently. When you're hit with this kind of awareness, there is nothing much to do, but to think and maybe act upon it.

These couple of weeks I became fully aware of the power that human beings have to open up. We can open up to several things. We can open up our minds and understand something that we couldn't some time ago. We can open up our hearts and let someone in. We can open up our eyes and understand something's  true beauty.

It is not easy to put yourself out there, and that is what opening up means. Exposing yourself to someone, to everyone, to risks. It is becoming vulnerable. It is becoming naive. It takes a lot, even to open up and be honest with yourself. Sometimes it's just easier to shut down.

I opened myself to new friendships, to people. I opened up to someone in particular. To my surprise, it has grown, it has matured and it is making a daily difference in my life. Friends are never enough, even when we think "you know what, I'm good with what I have". Good people around you is a blessing.

And I have been blessed in NYC.

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Coping

I have had them on my Itunes, on my car radio, on cd's, on my mind for six whole years. I would have never thought that one day I would see them live. What would an unknown small band (small for brazilians, huge in America) do in Brazil? I knew this was out of my league.

City Winery. Six years later.  I had the pleasure to listen to one of my favorites ( and must say) forgotten band.

It was intimate, it was personal, it was real. Hearing him made me feel it all over again.. Feelings and songs that were buried, were left behind, were part of the past.The power of music may never be underestimated.


It is not about the upcoming new bands, it is not about knowing every single musician out there. It is truly about knowing your favorites bands, feeling them, letting them in.

Today, I had a music invasion, it made my soul melt.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8cMy-Jmoso

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Guilty Pleasure

Managing Expectations

When I was young I had a very strong p.o.v on how to act and expect of people. Yes, some may call me radical, but I just call them principles. People with them are hard to find, but once you do, hold on to them. ( They are the ones who will be there for you, when you least expect).

Today, as I grow older, I try to maintain myself close to people who do have values, principles and concerns that are very much aligned with mine. When I am going to meet a new person, and decide whether that person will become a close friend, that is something that now I take account for.

Well, ok, all of that may sound easy and obvious, but as I learned during the years, it is not all black and white ( as much as I believed and wanted it to be). Life does have shades of gray, and knowing how to fit my values inside this shade is the challenge I face myself today, in my early 20's.

As I was talking and thinking about this subject.. trying to understand if I had any growth on my part, I came across a very common thought that many people share: expect less from people, you will avoid getting hurt. I think this is crap today, as I thought this was crap four years ago. I do expect people to be nice, to act upon the definition of friendship and to believe on their principles. I do however, see a shade of gray, that in the past was yet not deciphered by me: I do not do to others, or treat others, as I would like them to treat me. ( I would like to, but all my friends disappointed me one time or the other- as I have disappointed them). The truth is, I will do what I have to, because I believe that this is right. If others don't agree with me or would do it differently, then go ahead. I just rather be me. No hard feelings.

I realized that today, I believe even more in my principles. I do believe that " preto no branco" would make all of our lives better, but I now know how to manage the shades of gray..even though it is hard and makes me feel sometimes like a fake.

I also realized that today, there are few people whom I admire, which is sad. I also realized that true friends.. ixi.. those are so hard to find.. and to maintain.. as people are always changing and evolving. Especially, because with time, people do grow apart.

I found that inside of me, because I have my values so strong in my heart, it is much easier to let people do what they think is right, and not agree with them. I understand now, that I will not change the world, I will not change people, and all I can really do with (A LOT OF EFFORT) is change myself.

The ones that say that will not change, are ignorants. You must evolve. You must let people do their own shit, but you must be true to your heart.

I am true to my beliefs, principles and values. I still have strong p.o.v's, but now I really know how to manage them better without getting disappointed all the time. And again, I would rather be me.